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MARRIAGE TIPS

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Focus on what there is to appreciate about your mate, then honestly and spontaneously express your specific appreciation to them.

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Get intimate: It can be as often or infrequent as a couple wants, but do not let intimacy fade completely.

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Setting aside a romantic evening on a regular basis can rekindle the magic of a long term relationship.

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Have a long term view. Decide to be committed and to stick it out with each other to the end no matter what.

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Do not interrupt: If you listen for four minutes, at least you know what the other person is feeling instead of just shooting them down.

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Trust your partner in everything, including purchases and financial decisions, and to bring up things with you that need a joint decision.

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Do not keep score. Marriage is not a contest and it does not matter if you end up doing more than half of what needs to be done.

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Learn about yourself first. Learning about yourself will better equip you to grow as an individual and a partner.

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Research consistently shows that touching more creates a stronger bond by releasing oxytocin.

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Biggest waste of effort in marriage is trying to change your spouse.

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Discuss and agree upon some hard financial ground rules, preferably before you tie the knot.

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Focus on how you can be a blessing to your spouse and, in turn, you will be blessed and so will your marriage.

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Research shows that couples who speak in low, quiet voices, look each other in the eye, fair better when things go awry.

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You do not have to feel in love all the time. Marriage and love is about trust, commitment and knowing each other.

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During arguments, be willing to validate what your partner is expressing, even if you do not agree with it.

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Give five compliments for every criticism of your partner. You must be willing to find more that is positive in your partner than is negative.

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Recognize that most arguments have shared responsibility, that both people have valid points and valid reasons for their feelings.

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Stick to the present. Do not bring up old conflicts or things that went wrong in the past. It only creates resentment.

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When you take responsibility for your part in the marriage, you will be able to connect with your partner in a mature, intimate way.

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If you want a happy marriage, invest time and energy in it like you did when you were dating and take an annual checkup.